Love and Respect – part 2

In his book, Love and Respect, Emerson Eggerichs provides a series of six questions for men to use to gauge the level of their unconditional love toward their wives. Here they are, built around the acronym C-O-U-P-L-E:

1. Closeness – Am I always remembering to move toward her and accept her need to talk and connect with me to be reassured of my love?

2. Openess –  Do I share my thoughts with her, and am I sure I’m not resisting her efforts to draw me out?

3.  Understanding – Am I careful not to try to “fix” her every time she talks about one of her concerns or problems? Am I remembering that she is an integrated personality and whatever happens affects all of her, especially her emotions?

4.  Peacemaking – Am I always willing to resolve issues, and am I careful never to say, “Let’s just drop it and move on?”

5.  Loyalty – Do I constantly look for ways to tell her that I will be loyal to her forever – that she’s the one love of my life, the only woman for me?

6. Esteem – Do I always let her know that I treasure her and put highest value on her as a person? Do I let her know that what she does and thinks are important to me? Does she know I couldn’t possibly do without her?

Pretty good set of questions for self-review. Can you think of any others? Next up: questions wives can ask themselves to measure the level of their respect toward their husbands.

1 thought on “Love and Respect – part 2

  1. Tom Ireton

    Louise and I have the Love and Respect DVD series and have shared it with friends. I think it is the most Biblical approach to the husband/wife relationship. I need constant reminders it seems to practice Biblical principles though. Thanks for this most recent reminder.

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