The previous post included Emerson Eggerich’s list of the ways that a husband spells love to his wife. This post will identify how -according to Eggerich – that a wife spells respect for her husband. He uses the acronym C-H-A-I-R-S.
He writes: “A wife . . . uses these six concepts to let him know how important and vital he is to her. Wives should ask themselves these questions:
1. Conquest – Am I always standing behind him and letting him know I support him in his work and endeavors in his field?
2. Hierarchy – Do I let him know I respect and appreciate his desire to protect and provide for me and the family? What have I done recently to communicate this?
3. Authority – Have I gone on record that, because he has the primary responsibility for me (even to die for me), I recognize him as having the primary authority? Do I let him be the leader? How have I helped in this regard?
4. Insight – Do I trust his ability to analyze things and offer solutions and not just depend on my “intuition”?
5. Relationship – Do I spend shoulder-to-shoulder time with him whenever I can? Do I let him know that I am his friend as well as his lover?
6. Sexuality – Do I honor his need for sexual release even when I don’t feel like it?
(Love & Respect, Emerson Eggerichs, p. 261)
Are these the right questions? Would you suggest others?